We can only raise up our children well through MODELING. Nothing more and nothing less. You can never teach a child by saying many words but you can win them with your loving actions.
I became an effective parent who discipline her children with biblical principles when I became a daughter of God, and accepted God’s discipline in my life. We became adopted son and daughters of God when we accept and believe in Jesus as our Lord and savior who paid the penalty of sin by dying on the cross.
Discipline in love. Read 1 Corinthians 13, replace your name with the word love. Example: Roan is patient and is kind. Roan is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Roan does not demand its own way. Roan is not irritable, and Roan keeps no record of being wronged. Roan does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Roan never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Discipline is to correct with patience, kindness and justice. Make rules first and be strong to implement the rules and never bend the rules. Show mercy but express that you are not bending the rule, you are showing mercy when you withhold the penalty of the mistake. I teach my child that her actions has consequences and that means spanking, standing in the corner or withholding a right with the tablet, turning off the TV. I teach my child to respect me but I am respectful to her as well.
Never ever discipline in anger or you will unnecessarily hurt and kill your child. Anger is self-centered and love is others-centered. If your child breaks a thing in the house, don’t ever get angry and break his or her heart. You can replace a broken thing but a broken heart of a child caused by the parent is impossible to mend. It is very difficult to raise up a broken child. But with God nothing is impossible. To mend a broken heart is ask for forgiveness. We ask for forgiveness in the hurt and pain we caused to our child. We can only do so when we know the forgiveness of God and learn to forgive. when we learn to forgive, we became less angry. Ecclesiastes 7:9 (NLT) Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool. James 1:20 (NLT) Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. Colossians 3:8 (NLT) But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language.
Below are verses on biblical child discipline.
Proverbs 22:6 (NLT) Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.
Proverbs 20:30 (NLT) Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart.
Proverbs 29:15 (NLT) To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.
Deuteronomy 8:5 (NLT) Think about it: Just as a parent disciplines a child, the lord your God disciplines you for your own good.
Hebrews 12:6 (NLT) For the lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”
Hebrews 12:7 (NLT) As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father?
Proverbs 3:11 (NLT) My child, don’t reject the lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you.
Proverbs 13:1 (NLT) A wise child accepts a parent’s discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction.
Hebrews 12:5 (NLT) And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you.